In today's day and age your choices are often called into question by others. Why do/don't you: you eat meat, recycle, buy organic, vote, exercise, drive, believe in global warming, etc., etc.? Here I address why I decided to have kids. I know the general population is divided by this. Some view it as irresponsible to introduce more humans to the planet, that having kids is a selfish way to feed your ego, and so on and so forth. Meanwhile the other side views childbirth and rearing as some sacred, natural, rite of passage. I'm kind of between the two, honestly.
When I was a child I wanted a dozen kids one day. I also wanted to dress them up like a moving color wheel and carry them around in my backpack though. Once I learned where babies came from I didn't want to have my own because boys are gross and they make babies with the same hole they pee out of (true fact). A notion I held on well into my teen years.
When I was a young adult and particularly selfish with my time and resources, I definitely
did not want children. Life was one big party. As I matured
and got bored of a life where my only responsibilities were paying rent
on time and feeding myself regularly, I realized that I wanted something
more. I realized that I would like to shape the future of our planet by
having or adopting a child and (key component here) having an active
role in its upbringing and development -- not like those mothers who
have a child only to essentially leave it up to daycare professionals
and nannies to raise.
It's my belief that the problem isn't too
many people having children, it's the wrong people having children.
People who don't have the time for them, the money for them, or worse
didn't even want them to begin with.
I don't want to have
children to fill some psychological void in my life like those people
who try to make themselves feel better by hording, buying things they
can't afford, gambling, being promiscuous, or abusing substances. I
don't need children to 'complete' me. I'm well aware that the only
entity or object which can complete you is, in fact, you. It was more or
less my looking at society and having the epiphany that I alone will
never change it for the better in my lifetime, but realizing that
perhaps my children could take up the banner for change once I could no
longer hold it up.
It's much more than that, once you do it. You come to understand a love so genuine and pure that no amount of words could accurately depict it. It is unconditional, absolutely. Anyone who thinks true love doesn't exist has never had children.